Family! everyone has a family and without family survival in this world is a bit difficult. Family means a group of people living together either by consanguinity or affinity. A family generally consists of parents, children, and grand-parents. In the Indian culture joint family is widely preferable and without a grand-parents family is incomplete.
Learning starts from family. Our lifestyle and habits depend on our family background and cultural practices. In a true sense a person’s behaviour, attitude, and lifestyle are the reflection of their family background. This blog is dedicated to all the families in the world and thus I am sharing some of the lessons that should be learnt from family.
Sense of togetherness – In Indian saying ‘for grand-parents grand-children are more lovable’, and thus, an Indian family is incomplete without grand-parents. Every member of a family is bonded with love, respect, care, and trust. This sense of togetherness extends gratitude, love, and respect to elders and youngers. This togetherness matures the feelings of happiness, sorrow, and pain for self and others.
Patience – I remember I was adamant to get a cycle at the age of 10 and my parents told me ‘this is not the right age to get a cycle, first grow up more’. I always remember this line not because I did not get a cycle at that age but because of the lesson I received. I start understanding the importance of resources and their needs. I understand the value of patience and perseverance which always motivates me to earn what I like and need. Simply, it is like ‘make yourself able enough to achieve what you need and aim’ which needs a lot of patience to follow the process. Parents know the real meaning of patience. They invest their time and money to shape their children’s future without knowing the result.
Unconditional love and affection – The best part of the family is no one hates you, no matter how your attitude is. Everyone shows their concern and love in their own way like helping you in need, scolding you necessarily or unnecessarily, putting money in your pocket without letting others know, and so on. The love between Indian fathers and sons is very strange they neither show it nor talk more to each other but they are together in every odds and evens.
Handling a situation – One of the families in my neighbourhood started sharing their households with their neighbours only to let his son get out of the habit of stealing objects from other houses. This really worked, within 30 days that boy got rid of the habit of stealing objects from other’s houses.
Elders of the family know how to handle a situation no matter how big they are. They even don’t bother to take some hard and necessary steps to reach out to the solution. Just observe their way to handle a situation if you do not understand the process they follow, ask them patiently. A family believes in facing and sorting out a problem rather than avoiding it.
Conflict resolution – People living together does not mean to have the same thought process. It is, definitely, impossible. Agreeing and disagreeing with a decision is common in a family. Sometimes, it makes its hold firm and results in a family feud. But a family is always able to resolve it without harming the integrity and unity of the family.
Responsibility – Taking responsibility is another lesson to learn from family. In the Indian family husband takes the responsibility of earning money and other external responsibilities, wife takes the responsibility of making a house a home, and parents takes the responsibility of nurturing their children. The responsibility is always distributed among others to ease the workload and to be done efficiently.
Knowledge about culture and tradition – Learning culture and tradition through the family is easier and effective than learning through books. The Indian families are hierarchical and thus, all the traditions and cultural values are passed on to their heirs. This helps each and every Indian know and understand their culture very closely which finally delivers an incredible legacy.
The right use of resources – Indian families believe in saving and being original rather than showing off. Families in India always focus on their expenses and savings. They prioritize their essentials and organize their expenditures accordingly. This practice is not limited to them only their children also follow it. Because Indian families believe in ‘people should spread their leg only to their blanket size’.
Sacrifice and it’s value – where there is love there is sacrifice. A family is also incomplete without sacrificing something for someone. What compels a husband to earn money for him and his family. Think, why does a wife take care of the whole house along with her kids? They too have the right to live their life easily and comfortably but not. Parents sacrifice their happiness and personal time for a better future for their children. It is the love that shapes the value of sacrifice for your loved one.
Leave something better than to find it – Talk to Indian parents, they always dream of giving high standard life to their children than theirs’. They do all possible sacrifices for this. It is nothing but the lifestyle and Indian tradition which they receive from their parents and passes it on to their children. The head of the family always believes in leaving a well and better legacy than to find it.
The Last Corner
Family is the first and the last educational institution in everyone’s life. Children, parents, and grand-parents learn from each other. For me, my family also includes my two best friends and I am happy to learn a lot from them and thankful to them who taught me some of the valuable life lessons like sacrifices, responsibilities, love and care, patience and hard work, and situation handling. Start spending time with your family because for human, the heaven is always their home and a family make a home.
Friends, pay your gratitude to your elders and youngers for accompanying you till now and share your learnings from your family.