Anger is an intense emotional state that loosens self-control with a non-cooperative response to the perceived pain or menace. It is impulsive and reactive either in the form of shouting or ignorance or fights or lead the way to crime in some cases. Anger is a full-blown emotion that empowers mental stability temporarily. A human can not isolate themselves to be angry.
Anger should not be confused with other unpleasant emotions like resentment, irritation, hatred, and loathing. It is a payback approach with a backward-looking that can be reactive and destructive. The reaction in anger (anger itself is reactive) can be fruitful and regretful. It is a matter of discussion whether getting angry is good or bad, but everyone wishes to control it. A little effort can help anyone to deal with anger. Let’s check them out.
Monitor your anger – Keep a logbook and pen the frequency of your anger. Note down bit by bit, be sure not to skip the single time when you anger. Monitor every episode of your anger like how often do you get angry? What are the situations behind your anger? What evokes you to be angry? Your reactions and their consequences, and your actions to deal with your anger and other such. Be honest while monitoring because this systematic habit gives you complete insights about your anger and helps you to understand yourself when you anger.
Post anger scene analysis – Suppose you are in an anger-provoking scenario, and you react at your best. What to do now? Take some time, cool down yourself, and observe the changes in you when you were in anger. Also, Observe the scene and analyze whether getting angry was the only solution or handling with peace or talk or some other approaches. Everyone knows that every problem is a multi-solution, but focus, during low mental stability or anger, shifts to reactions only. Also, analyze your post anger behaviour. It may help you to draw a line in your behavioural change pre and post anger scene.
Be less judgmental – If you have the habit of judging people, stop it, even do not judge yourself. Remember, everyone is different in opinion, thought process, lifestyle, communication, and so on. you can not expect others to act and behave as you do. You can only bring them on the same page with some adjustments or compromises. For example, kissing in public, some may find it normal but others may not. It is nothing but a difference in opinion. So, stop being judgmental.
Accept the change – Change is hesitatingly adaptable in societies. Humans are always reluctant to the change. The consequences of the changes can be either refreshing or depressing, but accepting the change and moving on is the ultimate way to lead a healthy and happy life. Accept the people as they are, makes you less prone to anger. You do not give an extra effort to let others understand you because you are aware of yourself. Awareness with acceptance is always a key to better mental stability.
Meditation – Anger and frustration can cause stress and depression or vice versa. Meditating for a few minutes every day can help you to reduce stress and frustration, and thus, anger too. Meditation brings mental stability and places you in a real-time situation. Reading books, playing games, drawing, swimming, and other real-time activities are also a part of the meditation, and thus impact a great change on mental strength.
Empathize – Empathy is intuitive but overlaps somewhat with thinking scientifically. It is something that puts you in someone else skin that helps to realize the situation in different ways. Empathy broadens the thought process and connects yourself with others. It is an antidote to anger and frustration.
Relax and take time to talk to yourself – Stress, anxiety, sleeplessness, work pressure, etc. are among the reasons for anger. Anger is nothing but a reaction to something because of lower self-control. On reaching home after a bad day at the office your family demand a casual treat or party, what would be your reaction? Most of the people lose control of themselves because of stress and work pressure. It’s normal. Try to relax, learn to limit your stress on a particular occasion there only. Take some time to talk to yourself and realize yourself.
The Last Corner
Getting angry is normal, and natural everyone reacts to something or someone. The response to anger determines its impact if it is good or bad. The fact is no one can get rid of anger but can control and deal with it. Remember nothing is impossible you too can deal with you anger.