Life always reminds us of its topsy turvy nature through crises – personal, professional, or both. As long as we are alive crises are one of our best companions.
One fine day of January this year, I noticed some behavioural changes in one of my friends and colleagues. No one knows what was happened to him, but his behaviour was changed now. After some efforts, he broke out and revealed his personal crisis.
Of course, I am not discussing his personal crisis in this article. But many people fail to balance their personal life and professional life. My friend is one of them and he take almost a month to get through it.
Personal Crises are evident, and I believe they are cyclic. Denying and ignoring a personal crisis is a sign of an immaturity and idiot, so is the overthinking a crisis. It is a fact that crises put you under stress and sometimes into depression (in severe cases). But work is not the right place to carry your burden and loss.
When you are at work you don another character (a professionals), which has nothing to do with your personal life. Your focus and concentration should be on the task at hand. Involving personal life into professional life can be chaotic and distractions for others.
Sometimes, discussing personal crisis at workplace may let your entry into the Drama Queen club and Attention Seeker group or make you a toxic person at the workplace.
So, what to do to put personal crisis away from the workplace?
Inform Your Senior or Boss – Most crises take time and energy to heal, with the view not to hamper work, and make everything going smooth, informing senior about your personal crisis and contemporary condition (mental or physical) is magical.
But if you are always an excuse maker at the office then only god can save you as it would be hard for you to make your boss/senior to believe you.
Stay Calm, sit in a Peaceful Place, and Talk to Yourself – I know this is the toughest thing to do in crises. Obviously, a disheartened person finds silence even in a crowded place, but the internal calmness remains a wanderer.
A balcony and the rooftop can be an ideal place where talking to yourself brings tranquility and mental stability. Talk to yourself at such places and set up your priorities, as changing the past happening is out of the questions now. So, better, accepting the current situation and trying to overcome it as early as possible without harming yourself.
Call a friend and other knowns – It’s a human tendency to keep themselves distant from people during a crisis. Isolation during crises may result in some severe and incurable problems. Call your friends and other knowns to share your emotion, condition, and discuss your crisis and its coping strategies. Communication (at the workplace) should be maintained during a crisis to develop a support system and bring ease in hard times.
Do Your Job – Practically, time and life wait for none. Getting work done is the first priority at the workplace, no matter how deep you dive into your crises. Determination and self-belief are the tools to prepare mentally and physically fit to do the job.
Getting work done at the workplace during working hours and crying before going to bed every night may become daily rituals for a few days. However, Goal achievement should be the priority instead of dwelling on emotions.
Keep Your Emotion Under Control – Keeping emotion under control at the workplace shows the manner of professionalism and also escapes you from discouragement and gloom.
Take a Break – Taking a break from work is an ideal step towards productivity. For a person in grief and is overwhelmed emotionally, and work has proved a distraction, (for them) taking time-off can be the best decision. Planning a trip, spending time with family and friends, boost the mood and accompany the change.
Being in connection with your colleague and seniors/boss during time-off enhances your credibility, accountability, and responsibility.
The Last Corner
Many times, we have heard that crises in life come to shape us not to destroy us. What would be the condition of an oversensitive person, for whom, the post crises effect stays longer? Our sensitivity and response to crises determine the level and height of it. Being realistic and in the present moment are the best remedy to put an end to a personal crisis at the workplace. Though it is associated with emotions, and is hard to ignore and neglect it, can be handle in time.